We’ve all been there.
The first time when you learn how to love; with his prince charming smile. The first moment you felt that everything around you is because of him. The first fight that made your world ruined, and how both of you kissed and make-up. Until the first time your heart broken when he said goodbye and didn’t go back.
Whether it’s your first or your Nth time heartbreak, it is still your heart that’s aching, broken and torn apart. And you don’t have any other choice but to move on. Move on with hope that all things will eventually work out for the best.
And it did.
The new and better you come alive, ready to kick; to fall in love again.
Until one day, he called and you answered.
You’ve reconnect and made friends again. Why not? After all “past is past”, it’s OVER and DONE.
However, agreeing to be friend to an ex-lover can be dangerous.
Here are the 5 Dangerous Signs (Alert ! Alert!) that you’re being too nice and friendly to an ex.
(1). When chats turned to conversation
The millennial age gives us the most convenient way to reconnect with people that were once part of our life. Those people that we thought were disappeared from the earth, unfortunately they don’t; including our exes. A simple “hello” whenever you’re online that turned to conversation.; that turned to deep discussion.
(2). When boundaries aren’t clear
I believe that every relationship should have boundaries. Every person should respect each other’s individuality. But what if your boundaries with an ex-lover isn’t clear? Then, what is the status of your “friendship”, if there is something that called “friendship”?
(3). When one of you is dependent to the other
“When he’s all about that first person you wanna tell the good news to”.
A friend were supposed to be there when we needed a shoulder to cry on, when we want somebody to shared our joys, our fears and dreams.
(4). When your ex still find you attractive
I once said to a former boyfriend that ” if you continued to see and talk to me you’ll be getting hard time looking for a perfect girl”. It was a joke, but it could be true somehow.
(5). When “jealousy” still exists
It’s a RED ALERT! There’s no good reason to stay friends with your ex when this happen.
Starting a relationship with an ex-lover can be dangerous, if it causes you emotional pain. If the motives of “being friend” isn’t clear. If he is in a current relationship but not with you.
Maturity doesn’t make sense, if that friendship feels you weak, insecure and confuse.
DON’T DO IT.